Comments on: Tantrums http://dadventure.ca/2006/07/18/tantrums/ Traipsing through this jungle called parenthood Sat, 28 Jan 2012 12:26:24 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Laoise http://dadventure.ca/2006/07/18/tantrums/comment-page-1/#comment-39450 Laoise Sat, 03 May 2008 00:23:36 +0000 http://dadventure.ca/?p=39#comment-39450 I have a 2 1/2 year old girl who has at least 2 tantrums daily. We are also having night terrors. I'm a single mum and I am at my wits end. I'm often frustrated and crying due to these episodes, knowing that there is not a lot I can do but let her out-grow these tantrums I have a 2 1/2 year old girl who has at least 2 tantrums daily. We are also having night terrors.

I’m a single mum and I am at my wits end. I’m often frustrated and crying due to these episodes, knowing that there is not a lot I can do but let her out-grow these tantrums

]]> By: chip http://dadventure.ca/2006/07/18/tantrums/comment-page-1/#comment-702 chip Fri, 21 Jul 2006 12:55:51 +0000 http://dadventure.ca/?p=39#comment-702 wow, you could be describing my teenage daughter!! Unfortunately though the stuff that worked with her as a toddler don't really work anymore... Although your advice of shut up and let it run its course seems to be the only way to go. wow, you could be describing my teenage daughter!! Unfortunately though the stuff that worked with her as a toddler don’t really work anymore… Although your advice of shut up and let it run its course seems to be the only way to go.

]]> By: VILandDad http://dadventure.ca/2006/07/18/tantrums/comment-page-1/#comment-681 VILandDad Wed, 19 Jul 2006 15:33:45 +0000 http://dadventure.ca/?p=39#comment-681 Yeah, the throwing things in the middle of a tantrum is a tough one. We haven't had to deal with the throwing+meltdown issue. If The Girl throws, it is usually at other times, which is always met with consequences - usually Mom or I leaving the room, or stopping whatever activity caused the throwing. If she throws Playdough, the Playdough playing stops and the Playdough gets put away. One strategy in The Sprited Child book that may come in useful in the future for us is setting down ground rules before the tantrum happens. So, when everyone is in a good mood, have a discussion about what is acceptable and what isn't during a tantrum. Stamping your feet might be okay, but throwing things isn't. Saying hurtful things isn't allowed, but flopping on the bed is. I think, at 2 1/2, it might be a bit beyond my girl right now, but in another year or two, I think I may try that strategy. Yeah, the throwing things in the middle of a tantrum is a tough one. We haven’t had to deal with the throwing+meltdown issue. If The Girl throws, it is usually at other times, which is always met with consequences – usually Mom or I leaving the room, or stopping whatever activity caused the throwing. If she throws Playdough, the Playdough playing stops and the Playdough gets put away.

One strategy in The Sprited Child book that may come in useful in the future for us is setting down ground rules before the tantrum happens. So, when everyone is in a good mood, have a discussion about what is acceptable and what isn’t during a tantrum. Stamping your feet might be okay, but throwing things isn’t. Saying hurtful things isn’t allowed, but flopping on the bed is. I think, at 2 1/2, it might be a bit beyond my girl right now, but in another year or two, I think I may try that strategy.

]]> By: shawnâ„¢ http://dadventure.ca/2006/07/18/tantrums/comment-page-1/#comment-676 shawnâ„¢ Tue, 18 Jul 2006 19:02:42 +0000 http://dadventure.ca/?p=39#comment-676 Yeah, my daughter is in the 2 and a half range and the same thing is beginning to happen. Like you said, they are not "to get" something but just good old fashioned "this choo choo is pissing me off!" For instance, she has this wooden choo choo set. The cars connect with magnets but the one of the front of one will repell another cars front magnet but will attract its rear magnet. She doesn't get it. So if she tries to get the cars to stay together in the wrong order they don't work and BOOM...5 minutes of screaming, crying and throwing. For us, the crying and carrying on or easy to cope with. It's the throwing of the object of her wrath that is the real problem. Any advice? Shawn Yeah, my daughter is in the 2 and a half range and the same thing is beginning to happen. Like you said, they are not “to get” something but just good old fashioned “this choo choo is pissing me off!”

For instance, she has this wooden choo choo set. The cars connect with magnets but the one of the front of one will repell another cars front magnet but will attract its rear magnet. She doesn’t get it. So if she tries to get the cars to stay together in the wrong order they don’t work and BOOM…5 minutes of screaming, crying and throwing.

For us, the crying and carrying on or easy to cope with. It’s the throwing of the object of her wrath that is the real problem. Any advice?

Shawn

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